What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is a person's core belief about him or herself. Self-esteem affects all aspects of a person's
life, personal, family, school, and work. Although building self-esteem is a life long process, the foundations of self-esteem are
established in childhood, and parents have the greatest influence on their child's self-esteem. Here are some ways to help your
child's self-esteem grow and develop:
** SHOW AND TELL YOUR LOVE: Let your child know you love him or her. Tell them you love them. Give them hugs. Let
them know that you love them no matter what they do. Make it a habit to show and tell them several times a day.
** WATCH WHAT YOU SAY: Avoid put downs, even as jokes. Kids take them seriously. Never ridicule or shame your child.
** LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD: When your child has something to tell you, give them your full attention. Listen carefully.
Show them what they have to say is important.
** DON'T COMPARE: Never compare your children to others. This only encourages resentment and discouragement.
Remember, each child is unique and special.
** PRAISE, PRAISE, PRAISE!!!!: Be sure to make positive comments about your child's behavior at least 2 times as often as
negative comments. Notice strengths. When you focus on the behavior you like, your child's behavior will improve. Praise helps
build self confidence. Some examples are:
WOW! FAR OUT! SENSATIONAL! SUPER! WELL DONE! GOOD FOR YOU! WAY TO GO! YOU'RE DOING A LOT
BETTER! THANKS FOR BEING HONEST! THUMBS UP! AWESOME! THANKS FOR TRYING! YOU'RE A BIG HELP!
YOU ARE A SHINING STAR! THANKS FOR HELPING! YOU'RE A PLEASURE TO KNOW! WHAT A GREAT LISTENER!
YOU'RE SO KIND! GREAT EFFORT! YOU'RE A GREAT EXAMPLE FOR OTHERS! YOU'RE #1! GOOD WORK!
